9 Ways To Make Next Hookup Safer

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Hey there, sexies! So, you've matched with a cutie and the chemistry is sizzling. Before things escalate, let's talk about making sure your hookup is a night to remember for all the right reasons.

We all want a fun and flirty encounter, but a little planning can go a long way. Here are some tips to keep things safe without killing the vibe:

    • Public Place Meet-Up: First dates with someone new are best done in public! Grab coffee, check out a cool bar, or do something casual where you can chat and see if the spark is real. Before showing a total stranger where you sleep at night - sometimes the public meet up is the way to go. 

    • Know Your Limits: Before getting together, decide what you're comfortable with physically and emotionally. Is it just a one-night stand, or are you open to something more? Are there any activities that are off-limits? Communicating your boundaries clearly sets expectations and helps avoid awkward situations.

    • Pack Protection: Always be prepared! Whether it's condoms, lube, or just having a conversation beforehand about PrEP. Sometimes I prefer condoms because it's better to be safe than sorry if they have douched or not. 

    • Listen to Your Body (and Your Date's): Don't be afraid to say no, even in the moment. It's important to feel comfortable and safe throughout the encounter. Pay attention to your partner's body language and verbal cues as well. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. If your tummy grumbles and somethings are off limits - let them know! 

    • Buddy System (with Benefits): Alcohol and other substances can cloud judgment and make it difficult to make informed decisions. Designate a friend to be your "safe word" buddy. If things get uncomfortable or unsafe, you can text or call them for help with a pre-arranged excuse.  Let a trusted friend know where you're going and when you expect to be back. Sharing your location with them adds another layer of security. 

    • Don't Bring Cash (Or Other Valuables): We've all heard the horror stories of someone going to meet a hook up and they end up getting robbed. It's terrifying and sadly a thing that can happen however rare it is. My best advice - don't bring cash or anything else you can't easily replace. 

    • Cyber-stalking Them Is Okay: Don't be crazy about it, but looking up their socials and verifying details is a smart move. Social media can be a great way to get a feel for someone's personality (without full-on stalking!). Are their profiles public and positive? Do they share common interests? A quick scroll can give you some clues.

    • Avoid Catfishes: Before you go and waste a night waiting for someone who will never appear - catfish proof this date. It is perfectly acceptable to ask for someone to send a quick video verifying themselves. It can be a simple - give me a thumbs up or say hello with my name. 

    • Enjoy Yourself! By taking these precautions, you can relax and have a good time! Hooking up should be fun and exciting. Trust your instincts, have open communication, and focus on enjoying the moment. 

The Bottom Line

By following these tips, you can turn that hot online match into a truly unforgettable (and safe!) encounter. Hooking up is all about having fun and exploring your desires, so prioritize your safety and communication, and get ready for a night that lives up to the hype. Now go out there, have a blast, and hook up responsibly!