Dear Grandma Phag,
I'm a bottom who loves sex and I can't seem to get enough of it. I've been with multiple partners and I don't see any problem with enjoying my sexuality. However, I recently started to feel guilty after my friends and family members started to shame me for my behavior. They say that I'm being reckless and that I'm putting myself in danger. How can I deal with this judgement and continue to enjoy my sexuality without feeling guilty?
A Slutty Gay Man
Hello, A Slutty Gay Man!
First off, let me say that it's amazing that you are embracing your sexuality and enjoying yourself. We are all human beings with needs and desires, and there is no shame in pursuing what makes you happy (as long as it is safe and consensual, of course).
Now, as for dealing with the judgement from your friends and family, I understand how difficult it can be when those closest to us don't understand or accept our choices. But remember that their opinions are just that - opinions. And while it's important to listen to the concerns of those around us, ultimately you must do what is best for yourself and your own happiness.
It may help to have an honest conversation with your loved ones about boundaries and what is and isn't acceptable to discuss with you. But if they continue to shame you, know that it is not your responsibility to live up to their expectations or ideals. You deserve to live authentically as yourself without fear of judgement.
So keep being your fabulous self and don't let anyone dim your sparkle. You do you, honey!
Dear Grandma Phag
I'm a gay man who is conflicted about using condoms. On the one hand, I know that safe sex is important for preventing the spread of STDs and protecting myself and my partner. But on the other hand, I find it difficult to enjoy sex with a condom on. It just doesn't feel the same and I worry that I won't be able to fully enjoy myself.
How can I balance my desire for pleasure with the need for safety in sexual encounters? Is it ever okay to forego condoms in certain situations or with certain partners?
Conflicted About Condoms.
Hello there, Conflicted About Condoms!
As someone who has been around the block a few times, I can certainly understand your dilemma. It can be tough to balance the desire for pleasure with the need for safety, but let me tell you - safe sex is always the most important thing.
I know that condoms might not always feel the best or be the most comfortable, but they are still the best way to prevent the spread of STDs and protect yourself and your partner. However, there are ways to make using condoms a little more pleasurable. You can try different brands or types of condoms until you find one that feels best, or use extra lubrication to make things feel smoother.
It's also important to have open and honest communication with your sexual partner(s) about safe sex practices. PrEP is an option many couples use. You may find that your partner has similar concerns or preferences and that you can work together to find a solution that works for both of you.
Remember, darling, there's nothing more important than taking care of yourself and your health. So always make sure to prioritize safe sex practices, even if it means sacrificing a little bit of pleasure in the moment.
Dear Grandma Phag,
I love wearing jockstraps during sex. However, my partners keep ripping them during our sexual encounters. I understand that things can get a little rough and tumble, but it's starting to get expensive to replace my favorite underwear every time I have sex!
How can I bring this up with my partners without making them feel bad or putting a damper on the mood? And are there any tips for keeping my jockstraps intact during sex?
Well hello there, Jockstrap Trouble!
First off, let me just say that I feel your pain, honey. Those jockstraps are expensive, and nobody wants to keep replacing them every time they get a little frisky. But don't worry - I have some fabulous advice for you!
Now, I'm not here to judge anyone's sexual preferences or desires, but let's be real, honey - jockstraps are made for show, not for durability. So if you insist on wearing them during sex, my first tip would be to stock up on some cheaper alternatives, maybe even in bulk, so that you're not breaking the bank every time you lose a strap.
As for your partners, it's important to remember that accidents happen. But if you find that they are consistently causing damage to your undies, you might want to have a little heart-to-heart about it. Maybe they need to be a little more gentle, or maybe they need to invest in some nail clippers if their talons are causing the problem.
Whatever the case may be, my advice is to always prioritize communication in any relationship, sexual or otherwise. And if all else fails, just remember that nudity is always an option!